by Marianne Sciucco, author
of Blue Hydrangeas, an Alzheimer’s
love story
What
do you know about Alzheimer’s? Anything? What should you know about
Alzheimer’s? Something.
This is not just our
parents’ disease. It’s a problem that has
far-reaching complications, not only wreaking havoc in the life of the one
afflicted, but in the lives of all those surrounding him or her: spouse,
children, grandchildren, siblings, friends, caregivers, and the greater
community. Its impact is exponential: For each one of the 5.3 million
Americans diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, there are another 5.3 million (at the
very least) affected.
These people are our families, neighbors, co-workers, friends, and
acquaintances. As our lives intersect and intertwine, this disease affects all
of us.
June is Alzheimer’s and Brain Awareness Month. Take some time this month to learn more about
this illness, to understand what it means to those who love someone afflicted, to those who dedicate themselves to seeing they are cared for, and ensuring that their lives continue to have meaning and dignity.
this illness, to understand what it means to those who love someone afflicted, to those who dedicate themselves to seeing they are cared for, and ensuring that their lives continue to have meaning and dignity.
There are many ways to become educated about a condition or
disease. With Alzheimer’s, there are hundreds of books available to explain it,
advise what to do about it, how to handle it, and offer solutions and support
for caregivers. These are excellent resources.
However, stories that enlighten through the careful balance
of useful facts and a cast of relatable and realistic characters may be a
better way to shed light on this and many other medical issues. This type of
presentation enables the reader to get inside the head of the Alzheimer’s patient, their caregivers,
spouse, children, and other loved ones. It’s up close and personal, not
clinical and removed.
Here are five titles to get you started. Three are memoirs,
two are novels. Two are written by women who did double duty at the same time,
caring for both mother and father as they suffered
from dementia and Alzheimer’s. Another is the story of a woman healing
her relationship with her mother after an Alzheimer’s diagnosis. One is written
by a novelist wanting to pay tribute to those who rise to the difficult
challenge of serving as caregiver to a loved one with this disease. One is
written by a nurse who worked with hundreds of Alzheimer’s patient and their
families.
Alzheimer’s
is a frightening possibility, but to meet it without knowledge or an
understanding of its implications increases despair and hopelessness and strips
one of the power to make competent
decisions and access necessary supports and resources. Knowledge gained through
literature can be as practical and useful as any self-help or how-to manual.
Jean Lee, Alzheimer’s
Daughter, a memoir
"I wrote what I needed to read as I
traveled through the caregiving journey."
What
would you do if both parents were diagnosed?
At the time of their diagnosis, Ed Church struggles to
his feet, yelling, “How dare you use the A. word with me,” while Ibby wags her
finger at the doctor scolding, “Shame on you.”
They
defend each other, Ibby by asserting, “We’re not leaving our home,” and Ed reassuring, “We’re just fine.”
About
his driving Ed states, “I’m an excellent driver, I’ve never had an accident.”
After
Rosie moves them to assisted living, convinced they are on a second honeymoon,
they break the news, “We’ve decided not to have more children.”
In
the late stages, they politely shake Rosie’s hand, inquiring, “Now, who are
you?”
In Alzheimer’s Daughter readers journey
with the author from her first suspicions that something is awry to a decade
later as she is honored to hold Ed and Ibby’s hands as they draw their last
breaths.
Vicki Tapia, Somebody
Stole My Iron, A Family Memoir of Dementia
“I wrote my story to offer hope to others
whose lives have been intimately affected by this dreadful disease, to reassure
them that they’re not alone.”
How
would you cope if your loved one’s mind gradually slipped away?
Navigating
the waters of dementia can be frightening, unleashing a myriad of emotions for
everyone involved, precipitating anxiety and grief, anger and frustration,
extreme sadness and feelings of hopelessness.
After Vicki Tapia’s mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease,
followed closely by her father with Parkinson’s disease-related dementia, she
struggled to find practical, helpful information to light her way. Somebody
Stole My Iron began as a diary to help her cope
but emerged as a road map for others. It
offers a glimpse into her family's life as they rode the waves of dementia,
sometimes sailing, other times capsizing.
This engaging memoir offers useful information from experts in the field of Alzheimer's research, personal
lessons the author learned along the way, and ideas/tips for managing the
day-to-day ups and downs of dementia.
Somebody Stole My Iron chronicles the
tenacity of Vicki’s mother as she fought her way through the tangled and
bewildering labyrinth called dementia.
Above all, it is a story of holding on and ultimately learning to let
go, transcending the pain and turmoil to discover both an abiding love and a tender compassion.
Maria Hoagland, Still
Time, a novel
“Medical and family drama are intriguing to
me, but it wasn't the unusual that grabbed my attention for this book. I wanted
to spotlight the stalwart courage and strong character that are revealed when
someone has to rise to a difficult challenge. I
believe we all have it in us to confront our trials, face them head-on, and
gracefully endure, and what better way to show that than a mother and caregiver
who sacrifices her all for someone she loves?”
Thrust
into the chaos of her mother-in-law’s hoarding and forgetfulness, LDS church
member Alyssa Johnston wishes she could retreat to a simpler time when her kids
were small and almost anything could be fixed with a hug. But reassurance and a
quick distraction no longer erase the pain of a missionary son who is
struggling, a young teen who is bullied, or a daughter who is distant. As Aly’s
own life and relationship with her husband plunge out of control, she wonders
if her faith will be enough to keep her family—or herself—from falling apart. Still Time is a deeply moving story
about a woman’s faithful journey into the next phase of her life. You will laugh with Aly, feel her sorrow, and see
yourself in Maria Hoagland’s realistic, heartfelt portrayal of a woman’s
struggle to keep her family safe and hold back time as long as she can.
Lisa Hirsch, My
Mom My Hero, a memoir
“My mother touched me greatly after she
showed signs of Alzheimer's. As a long
distant caregiver, speaking to her every day, I found myself falling in love
with her. I wrote down everything she
said so I would never forget it. This is
now my book, My Mom My Hero.”
A
Daughter’s Newfound Love. When Lisa
Hirsch found out her mother Ruth had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease,
her love, appreciation, and caring for her mother was transformed. To Lisa’s surprise, it has brought her and
Ruth closer together than they’ve ever been.
My Mom My Hero tells the story
of this mother-daughter relationship through a series of entries from Lisa’s
internationally popular blog.
Ultimately, this is an uplifting and inspirational book for anyone who’s
going through the difficult and often lonely ordeal of caring for a loved one
who suffers from this devastating illness.
Available
on Amazon
Marianne Sciucco, Blue
Hydrangeas, an Alzheimer’s love story, a novel
“This is a story I wrote from the heart
after witnessing the pain and heartbreak of many couples and families
struggling with Alzheimer's disease. The
characters are loosely based on one couple I met in my work as a registered
nurse. Blue Hydrangeas is
my attempt to bring consolation and understanding to all who encounter
Alzheimer's.”
What
if the person who knew you best and loved you most forgot your face, and
couldn't remember your name?
A
nursing facility is everyone's solution for what to do about Sara, but her
husband, Jack, can't bear to live without her. He is committed to saving his
marriage, his wife, and their life together from the devastation of Alzheimer's
disease. He and Sara retired years ago to the house of their dreams and operated it as a Cape Cod bed and
breakfast named Blue Hydrangeas.
Jack
has made an impossible promise: He and Sara will stay together in their
beautiful home no matter what the disease brings. However, after nine years of selfless
caregiving, complicated by her progressing Alzheimer's and his own failing heart,
he finally admits he can no longer care for her at home. With reluctance, he arranges to admit her to
an assisted living facility. But, on the day of admission, Sara is having one
of her few good days, and he is unable to follow through. Instead, he takes
them on an impulsive journey to confront their past and reclaim their future.
In the end, he realizes that staying together at any cost is what truly
matters.
Many thanks, Keely!
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DeleteKeely so special of you. Thank you so much form Lisa Hirsch - My Mom My Hero
DeleteAnother great series is the Reverend G books by RJ Thesman. Love them!
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